“It’s one thing when family members or friends want to touch the baby bump but do not be surprised when perfect strangers will walk right up to you and place their hands on your stomach as though it is a melon at the supermarket that needs the thump test. “
A strange and different experience when you become noticeably pregnant is how your body now seems like public property to strangers. It’s one thing when family members or friends want to touch the baby bump but don’t be surprised when perfect strangers will walk right up to you and place their hands on your stomach as though it is a melon at the supermarket that needs the thump test.
Imagine doing this to someone in any other scenario. How about walking up to some guy at your child’s basketball game and placing your hands on his beer gut as you bombard him with endless questions about his personal life. Most of us would probably find this absurd and yet it is a daily happening in the life of a pregnant woman. You’re baby bump is now a phenomenon that must be remarked on, inquired about, and relentlessly touched and prodded.
On one hand, it is endearing that people love pregnant women so much that they crave this kind of intimate interaction with them. If you can tolerate it, it can even feel flattering to be heaped with so much attention. People do light up and smile when they see a pregnant woman. They will offer stories of their own, well meaning advice and compliments. Try to enjoy this part. You will be told you glow on a daily basis. You will be like a celebrity being hounded by paparazzi with all the hands that reach out to touch you.
If being touched and counseled by perfect strangers is not your thing, there are ways to be polite while still maintaining your boundaries. Simply let them know that you;d prefer to not be touched. You are not being rude. Even though you are playing host to another person, it is still your body and you can call the shots. Take the comments and unsolicited advice with a grain of salt. Most people are just trying to connect and are sparked by inspiration of the beauty and wonder of a pregnant woman.