How to Help Your Middle Child Not Feel Like a Middle Child

Let’s start with the facts and nothing but the facts:

  •         Over 50% of all Presidents were middle children
  •         Middle children generally have happier and healthier romantic relationships
  •         The dreaded “middle child syndrome” actually helps grown up middle children be more empathetic and independent

Each of these facts tells a different side of the same story. Middle children have it rough. Although they often overcome this difficulty to grow into compassionate adults, their childhoods aren’t always the easiest. So, with that in mind, we’re here to offer you some practical and simple tips to help your middle child feel less like a middle child.

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A Little Extra Effort Goes a Long Way

There are a million and one ways to show your middle child some extra attention. You can take the time to explain your reasoning behind a particular punishment (it’s not because they’re not your oldest child). You can carve out special time to spend with them and only them. You can encourage the differences between your children and highlight your middle child’s achievements.

Here’s the thing: it doesn’t really matter what form this extra effort takes. The important thing is to make sure your middle child knows they’re being listened to, respected, and most importantly, loved.

Make Time to Do Their Favorite Activities

Your oldest child has had the advantage of your complete attention and, more often than not, your amazement at just about anything they do. Your youngest child has the advantage of being raised in a more permissive environment. Your middle child has the advantage of…?

They need the advantage of you making extra time for them and their favorite activities!

If your middle kid likes to bowl, you’re going bowling. If they like bugs, then you’re brushing up on your entomology knowledge. The activity itself isn’t the point as much as spending one-on-one time with them and showing an interest in their interests.

Encourage Their Unique Personality

While middle children can grow up to be more understanding, compassionate, and empathetic thanks to a quieter childhood, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t encourage them to spread their wings and soar. Sure this sounds a bit corny, but it’s absolutely true!

What’s your middle kid interested in? What personality quirks do they have? What do they do differently than the other children? Embrace them, whatever the answer might be!

Be Proactive

Being proactive can mean different things depending on your middle child’s unique personality (noticing a trend yet?). If they’re quieter, this means making sure they get a say in household conversations and votes. If they’re a bit rambunctious, being proactive means making sure they get enough exercise.

Another way to be proactive with middle children is to let them do things outside of the family. This may sound counterintuitive, but middle kids often want to play with friends rather than siblings.

Cut Out the Hand Me Downs

While your middle child isn’t going to get quite the same amount of hand me downs as your youngest, they’re still likely to get some. This is fine and a smart way to save money. Don’t overdo it though. If your middle kid needs new shoes, take them to get a pair. This is also a great way to spend some quality one-on-one time with them.

Now that you have the insider scoop on how to make sure your middle child doesn’t feel so much like a middle child, check out our Mom’bassador Program! Perhaps you and your middle child want to get involved on some of our REAL MOM DAILY events together!

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