I didn’t know people with children let alone people with babies. This went on for years. It’s a cocktail for disaster.

Being a stay at home mom can be extremely lonely. Believe me, I know. When my first son was born, I was working out of the house on our family business, while his father traveled for work. I was 24, a bit of an introvert, living in Los Angeles, with a little one on my hip. I had minimal interaction with other people; most of which was by phone with a dear friend we call an auntee, my mom and an acting class I went to once a week (yes, you’ll find many actors are introverts).

I got super reclusive and depressed which led to more reclusivity. I didn’t know people with children let alone people with babies. This went on for years. It’s a cocktail for disaster. My best friend was my baby. My entertainment: my baby. My mission in life… my security… my baby. Not healthy. Not healthy for me. Not healthy for him. Not healthy for my marriage. Not healthy for a wanna be actor. No one told me about mommy groups, we didn’t have the internet the way we do now and in truth I didn’t know any better. In my simple, young mind, this was my life now.

It wasn’t until my son started going to pre-school that I truly started making friends on terms that were solely based on enjoying being with each other and not work related. It was when he was in kindergarten in NY, that we finally really hit our stride. To this day, my dear friend Robin, another mom I met in the halls of PS 9, doesn’t know how much she pulled me out of my shell.

Mack with her two sons, Talin and Gaige

Almost a decade later, my second son was born. Still a bit of an introvert and back in Los Angeles, I was bound and determined to do things differently. I forced myself to make coffee dates, we checked out all of the local activities, I joined mommy play groups, and finally even created one of my own!

Get online and find groups to join! They are everywhere today. Use Facebook and mom blogs. When your child is at an age when she’s going to school, volunteer to help out. Join women doing things you believe in. Ha! I’ll even give an unabashed plug! Write something on parenting for http://www.realmomdaily.com. Tell us about the groups you find! Talk about the issues you have. We’re in this together! We as women have the tools to empower each other. Don’t do this alone! Congratulations on your growing family!

xoxo Mack

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Author: McKenzie Satterthwaite

Mom of 2 boys McKenzie (Mack) founded Real Mom Daily because of her own need to connect with like minded women and companies. Environmental sustainability and social justice run through the veins of everything in Mack's life. She just spent a year in Bali, Indonesia where her kids attended the Green School. They lived in a simple house in the middle of the rice paddies in Ubud. Now back in Los Angeles, simplicity is quickly forgotten. Prior to REAL MOM DAILY, Mack co-founded and created Camp Chat and the XMA (Extreme Martial Arts) Life skills and Leadership Program which is licensed by over 2,000 martial arts schools around the world. Mack also did a stint as a lead character on the soap opera As The World Turns. Jett Lee taught her how to fire a gun (though she'd NEVER keep one in her home), she's had a few too many vodkas with Jackie Chan, she's written 2 screen plays, made a short film, fully renovated 6 houses, started 4 companies, and as a kid detasseled corn in Illinois (yes, she can drive a tractor) and like many entrepreneurs, she once had a paper route. With Real Mom Daily Mack interfaces with influencers, companies and politicians on city, state and national levels to advocate for issues that stand for social good. Mack's Quaker upbringing gives her an appreciation for all things simple. She cooks dinner and has a nightly moment of silence before her family eats at a table often graced by friends and family. When she looks at her glass she sees it half full but... she's a skipping contradiction. View all posts by McKenzie Satterthwaite

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