There’s a funny meme that was going around that perfectly illustrated a mom’s reality in one phrase, “I was so happy when I woke up and it was Saturday and then I remembered I was a mom.” I don’t know too many moms that haven’t felt a fleeting nostalgia for a time when Saturdays meant, sleeping in, morning sex and brunch with friends instead of crack of dawn wake ups, breakfast short order cooking and birthday parties and/or soccer games. And then it’s back to our regularly scheduled lives with work and school come Monday.
Imagine taking a weekend away just for yourself. It may be a ladies spa weekend or a yoga retreat. It could be a ski weekend with some college friends or a longer stay at a friend’s home where you can sleep late, drink tea and catch up. A mom retreat is different than a romantic weekend getaway or an obligatory work trip, it is an opportunity for you to re find yourself, even just for a couple days. To have time away from your routine and yes, a temporary respite from the non stop job of mom. When we take these opportunities to relax on a retreat, we come back refreshed and with renewed purpose and vigor to tackle to hurdles of motherhood with a smile.
As a host of women’s yoga retreats, it has been an amazing experience to observe the difference that a few days away makes for mothers. They come in frazzled, stressed and tired and leave with the common shared sentiment of feeling like their old selves again. It’s important that the retreat you choose as your getaway is something that you really enjoy. Choose a location that is restful and company that you enjoy. Take time to sleep late, exercise, write, walk and talk. We must remember, we cannot pour from an empty cup and when we take time to fill ourselves up, we are more patient and effective as mothers.
Remembering the need to take care of ourselves will hopefully alleviate any guilt. A friend once described the state of motherhood of a constant state of indescribable love, worry and guilt. Yes, we feel guilty sometimes when we do something for ourselves. Don’t. Seriously. Give yourself a break. Chances are you work your butt off for the love of your kids and will go back to doing so when you get back. And let the worry part go as well. It is good for kids to have dad time if that’s the case or a auntie or grandparent to have quality time with the kids.
You probably will miss your kids more than they miss you. Kids are very in the moment. As long as they are entertained by dad or grandma and are well-cared for, they are just fine. They will be thrilled to see you, but chances are their time will be filled with trips to the zoo and eating all the foods they’re not usually allowed to have. They will throw themselves into your now more relaxed open arms upon your return and will benefit in the vicarious joys of a well cared for mom.