“If you are a mom of an infant, chances are that you will be celebrating your first Mother’s Day this Sunday. Congratulations! This is a big turning point in a recognition of this new definition of yourself.”
If you are a mom of an infant, chances are that you will be celebrating your first Mother’s Day this Sunday. Congratulations! This is a big turning point in a recognition of this new definition of yourself. You’re a mother now! This day celebrates this new role. As new moms, we are still carving out this new definition of ourselves, diaper change by diaper change and night feeding by night feeding. But the truth is, there is a fundamental change in how we perceive the world, as the world now holds this precious creature that came from our body. It is a profound and beautiful thing.
Too often we put too much expectation on this day and what it means. In many ways, it is just another Sunday that has been marketed by greeting card companies to be a day to recognize mom. This can be a beautiful thing, and yet sometimes it may feel forced and overhyped. Instead of waiting to see what your husband or partner will do to recognize this most important day,(which he will almost certainly, somehow, fall short) find small ways to celebrate yourself that are not dependent on anything store bought or reservations made weeks in advance.
Plan something that is meaningful and celebratory to you for you. This may mean going out for the requisite Sunday Brunch, but chances are the restaurants will be overbooked and overpriced and filled with impatient whining kids and moms with forced smiles trying to enjoy their “special day.” Choose to celebrate with a hike or walk on the beach. Order take in and watch an old movie together. Forgo the crowds and just relax. Focus on all you are grateful for and recognize that flowers and candy are always nice but feeling recognized and loved and celebrated are what it’s all about. In other words, let your partner off the hook from expectations and just be together.
We women are chameleons by nature. We adapt to new circumstances with incredible ease. As mothers we mold into a new definition of ourselves and the world around us. We are the ultimate of shape shifting super beings! Celebrate how awesome it is that your body created this little person, your milk feeds and nourishes it’s little body and your heart will love it forever.
Happy Mother’s Day!