“I am often surprised when I hear new moms proclaiming that they had their newborn down the hall with the door closed as young as a few weeks old.”
I teach pre and post-natal yoga. Because of this, I have been in a position to give solicited and sometimes unsolicited advice. In the kundalini yoga world, we are encouragers of breast- feeding, attachment parenting, wearing your baby as much as possible and yes, c0- sleeping with your new little one. Understanding these things may not be everyone’s cup of chai tea, we encourage new moms to research the benefits of this “hands on” approach to parenting.
My children see a pediatrician who is huge believer in the comfort, convenience and coziness of the family bed. Our doctor, Dr. Jay Gordon of Santa Monica, California has literally written the book on the family bed. His book, Good Nights, The Happy Parents’ Guide to the Family Bed (and a peaceful night’s sleep.), is a fantastic guide to a realistic and modern way to keep the whole family sane and well rested during those early months of your baby’s life. Dr. Gordon’s book includes not only the emotional benefits of the family bed but also safe measures for successful co sleeping. He provides and well-researched data that suggests the family bed helps protects babies from SIDS.
I am often surprised when I hear new moms proclaiming that they had their newborn down the hall with the door closed as young as a few weeks old. I wonder why we feel this need that we should create this barrier of doors and cribs and hallways, when in truth, all a newborn wants is the touch, the smell the closeness of its mother. I very much believe in the benefits of the easy access of co sleeping for night time nursing as well as the importance of the coziness and bonding. I personally found we all slept much better when I had have the babies in the master bedroom and could nurse them throughout the night without a big upset.
I also understand the arguments against sharing a bed with one’s baby. I understand the objections to what may seem like a violation of the parents sleep patterns, etc. Many parents wonder what about privacy? What about a good night sleep? And what about sex? These are all valid concerns but most of these can be answered by some good common sense, a little bit of strategic planning and a healthy sense of adventure.