Congratulations! You’re going to be a DAD!

You want to be the best DAD you can possibly be and you WILL be. As you’re navigating through the new days here are some things to think about:

  • If you’re exhausted, MOM is even more exhausted. Think about ways to help and encourage her to get rest and feel loved. The stronger mama is the better she will be for your baby.
  • Set up an environment that is peaceful. This is a sweet time for your family but it can also be very emotional. Keep the place tidy. Fresh air, light music, healthy food, herbal tea, candles at night, a kiss and a hug just because and a thank you to mom for making such a beautiful baby. The “little things” make a huge difference.
  • Hold your baby as often as possible. Skin to skin. Heart to heart. Let this sweet bundle smell your breath, your fragrance. Let her/him hear your heart beat …the cadence in you will start to build a bond and confidence in how her/ his world is being formed.
  • Be a part of feeding if the milk supply allows. Let mom take a shower and have time alone, just YOU and BABY. Start creating a ritual of being there with your child during meal times and keep it throughout life.
  • Sing the songs from your childhood. If you don’t remember the words, find a recording of them and play them until you learn them.
  • Dance with your little one to a love song that reminds you of her/his MOTHER.
  • Include extended family in your joy but ask them to  be respectful of the space YOUR NEW FAMILY might need as you’re nesting.
  • Get outside. Start a ritual of going on walks in the evenings. On the weekends pack a picnic and go to the park.
  • Sooner than later encourage MOM to get out for an hour or two alone. Maybe she’d like a manicure or a massage?
  • As MOM starts getting used to being away from your baby for short periods of time. Make a date for just the two of you. Find someone you trust to take care of the baby. Go on a hike, dinner, maybe there’s a band in town you both love. Find ways to reconnect as the couple you were before the baby arrived. Solidifying a healthy partnership may be the BEST gift you can give your child.
  • Don’t rush through the milestones your BABY will reach. Enjoy it ALL. It goes by way too fast! xoxo

Author: McKenzie Satterthwaite

Mom of 2 boys McKenzie (Mack) founded Real Mom Daily because of her own need to connect with like minded women and companies. Environmental sustainability and social justice run through the veins of everything in Mack's life. She just spent a year in Bali, Indonesia where her kids attended the Green School. They lived in a simple house in the middle of the rice paddies in Ubud. Now back in Los Angeles, simplicity is quickly forgotten. Prior to REAL MOM DAILY, Mack co-founded and created Camp Chat and the XMA (Extreme Martial Arts) Life skills and Leadership Program which is licensed by over 2,000 martial arts schools around the world. Mack also did a stint as a lead character on the soap opera As The World Turns. Jett Lee taught her how to fire a gun (though she'd NEVER keep one in her home), she's had a few too many vodkas with Jackie Chan, she's written 2 screen plays, made a short film, fully renovated 6 houses, started 4 companies, and as a kid detasseled corn in Illinois (yes, she can drive a tractor) and like many entrepreneurs, she once had a paper route. With Real Mom Daily Mack interfaces with influencers, companies and politicians on city, state and national levels to advocate for issues that stand for social good. Mack's Quaker upbringing gives her an appreciation for all things simple. She cooks dinner and has a nightly moment of silence before her family eats at a table often graced by friends and family. When she looks at her glass she sees it half full but... she's a skipping contradiction. View all posts by McKenzie Satterthwaite

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