I chose my son’s pediatrician based on one sentence he uttered in our first meeting. “I may be the doctor, but when a mom comes to me and says I just know something is going on with my kid, all my bells go off. Nothing is stronger than a mother’s intuition.” Sold! I thought, this man gets it. Too often we are given the message to listen to the experts. We are encouraged to trust doctors, teachers, pharmacists, politicians to know better than us. We give our power away when we go into fear and begin to doubt ourselves. We think, well, what do I know? I’m new at this mothering thing after all, I’m sleep deprived and making it up as I go. This doubting is where we can go awry. But when we do give ourselves permission, just as this wonderful doctor gave me permission to listen to that unique intuition with our own child, we step into our own power as the ultimate advocate, and mama warrior for our children. A friend tells a story of her young child being bitten by a black widow spider. She did not know at the time what had happened but instinctively could tell something was very wrong. Even in the face of others around her telling her to relax, that it’s probably no big deal, instinctively she knew something was wrong. She described it as every cell in her body was vibrating with alarm. She rushed her toddler to the emergency room. Upon arriving it was confirmed that his little body was going into anaphylactic shock and the nurse was about to administer a dose of anti-venom when she grabbed the nurses arm. She claims it was just instinct. She just knew. She hadn’t even thought before she did it, when she asked, “Wait! Is that the correct dosage?” All the color drained from the nurses face as she realized she was about to administer an adult size dosage into the tiny boy’s body which likely could have resulted in tragedy. To be confident in our own ability to understand our child takes a certain faith that this soul chose us to be their mom. When you come from the greater understanding that you alone were chosen to perform the most sacred of roles with your child, it can evaporate many core insecurities and help you step into that inner knowing. Remember, the human species has survived and thrived because of mother’s unique skills of protecting, advocating and defending their young. It is literally in our DNA from when our bodies begin to develop extra sensory perception to smells during pregnant to help us eliminate anything toxic or dangerous to us. In the natural world, we know that there is nothing as fierce or as powerful as a mother protecting her young. Do not mess with the mama bear or fear the consequences of her wrath. We too, as human mothers have been known to perform superhuman feats of strength, perseverance and courage when faced with danger to our child. As humans, our special gift is our extrasensory intuition and instinct. Another story that’s always stuck with me was from my childhood of a classmates’ mom who had left her children at home with a babysitter when she was overcome with a terrible feeling that something was wrong. Again, she just knew. She abandoned her cart of groceries and raced home to burst into the house and find her youngest daughter hysterical crying in pain, pinned to the wall by the neck by the babysitter. In both these cases, there was something higher at work: an inner knowing that defied logic or reason. This inner knowing is available to us at all times, even in less dire circumstances and in sometimes more subtle ways. When we trust this inner knowing, we are opening ourselves up to all kinds of miraculous possibilities.
Blog ▷ When You Just Know (Learning to Trust Our Instincts as Mothers)