Women have a limited window of the ideal time to embark on motherhood. A journey that, when done well, is an all consuming, lifelong, joyful and challenging responsibility. Ideally, if she still hopes to get an education and forge some semblance of a sustainable career, that window closes to about 25 to 35. Sure, women are having more babies over the age of 40 than ever before, but that damning expression of “Geriatric Pregnancy,’ for a pregnancy over the age of 35, can chase any woman out of the gynecologist’s office and straight to the therapist’s. With modern science, egg freezing has changed the game for women’s reproductive choices with a much more empowering option. The first child was born from egg freezing in 1999, and since then, women are now given an option to delay motherhood until a time when it may be more doable for her. Here are a few reasons for modern women tho think about choosing to freeze their eggs:
- You’re dating the bad boy. You knew when you started dating him that he probably wasn’t someone you would want to grow old with, but for now, you are happy and having fun. Sure, he may be great in bed, but he’s sure not dad material. Or, you are still searching and haven’t found your ideal mate with whom you want to spend the rest of your life. A ticking biological clock should not rush this important decision. If 35 is creeping up and you have the means (around $10,000 for treatment), freezing your eggos might be a good choice.
- You’ve watched all episodes of The Handmaid’s Tale and are freaking out over fertility. Yes, infertility can be a very rough road, even without a fascist patriarchal police state. As we get on in years, our eggs start to become less than farm fresh. So for the gift to yourself, of peace of mind, and hopefully the avoidance of very costly and stressful IVF procedures down the line. Egg freezing takes the intense pressure off being in a standoff with father time and opens up new possibilities.
- The guys have viagra and other boner pills to extend their reproductive potency, and now modern science can hook up the ladies. No one wants to be mistaken as a grandmother in the kindergarten yard, but the option of extending our reproductive years a bit, slightly evens out the playing field as more and more women are becoming mothers in their 40s.
- You’re about to kick that cancer diagnosis, and want to preserve your healthy eggs before chemotherapy or radiation. This is a harsh reality too many of our friends and family have to contend with. But the option of potentially saving a woman’s fertility that might otherwise be destroyed by fighting cancer, is a miraculous option.
- You are dead set on finishing your degree and/or get to the next level at work, and motherhood doesn’t factor in just yet. It is important for women who want to continue careers as mothers that there is a strong career base established and these things take time. Some eggs on ice can give you a better chance at securing that executive position.
Let’s face it, accomplishing all the things that we hope to do and becoming a mother can seem like a total paradox. Too often, women have had to choose and compromise. Granted, compromise is inevitable and motherhood, no matter when it enters our life, is a life changing event. But now, you have the gift of buying a little more time to build your best life to share someday with your child.