Are you dancing at the edge of your comfort zone? Are you letting your fears keep you playing small?
When we play small, we are inhibiting our true selves from shining through: not going after that dream job because we feel we don’t have the qualifications, not striking up a conversation for fear of what someone might say. Playing small is allowing fear to overtake us and squash our dreams.
Playing it safe—and small—is staying in a meaningless job for years on end because it pays the bills and has great benefits. Playing it safe means we convince ourselves we are okay where we are, because we are not at risk being vulnerable.
Playing it safe is a tricky place, though. There is a tug, an internal pull, that is telling us there is more—more to our careers, our families, our lives, and to our purpose. Enter: Playing Big.
Playing big means we step into our purpose: to be the best mother to our children, to be the best boss or employee, to be fully present in our relationships with our partners, to live the life we know we are meant to live. It is one thing to talk about Playing Big and acknowledge it, but even once recognized, it is not easy to just do it.
I know, because I’ve been playing small for far too long.
I had a decent job with great benefits, and I liked the people I worked with. I stayed there, playing it safe for many years, because that was the responsible thing to do and it was easy to stay in the comfort zone. But then the tug became too strong, and I knew it was time to take the leap and honor the passion I had within me to help women live their healthiest and best lives. Taking the leap and leaving the safety net of security was nothing compared to what happened next, when I actually had to try to do something I had never done before—start my own business.
Fear took over and got in the driver’s seat. Fear of failing, fear of what people may say or think, fear of not knowing enough, fear of being vulnerable by putting myself out there, fear of not being ready. The list of fears goes on and on, and for quite some time I have let those fears paralyze me, spinning my wheels, making good time, but going absolutely nowhere!
Did I get rid of my fears? No, they are still there, but I’m beginning to quiet them.
The fear may be irrational, but it is not irrelevant. There is risk associated with playing big. Sometimes a big risk, and that’s why there is fear. However, without risk, there is no reward. By playing small, I cannot serve my clients to help them transform their lives, and step into their purpose to live their dreams. Playing small serves nobody, least of all, ourselves.
Our dreams are meant to be lived. We are here to play big.
What is it costing you to play small? Is it worth it?